erin aylmer, mft
erin aylmer, mft
about
My Practice
Many of the couples I work with care deeply about their relationship, but stress, parenting, or old patterns keep getting in the way. Often, they feel stuck in the same arguments, disconnected from each other, or unsure how to get back to feeling close. I help couples slow things down, understand what’s really happening underneath conflict, and learn how to reach for each other in ways that feel safer and more supportive.
Emotionally significant experiences can have a profound impact on both the psyche and the body. In couples therapy, moments of conflict or disconnection are approached with curiosity, inviting us to look beneath the behaviors, reactions, and patterns that may be causing distress. What appears on the surface as criticism, withdrawal, anger, anxiety, or emotional distance may hold a deeper story about what each partner has experienced and the ways they have learned to respond when connection feels threatened.
My approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based, attachment-focused model that helps couples identify patterns, strengthen emotional bonds, and create safer, more secure relationships. I enjoy working with couples who are parenting or raising families and I understand how much pressure that can put on a relationship. When partners feel more connected and supported, it often creates more emotional safety for the whole family.
